As a parent are you in joy in yourself?!

Make time for self-care, for me-time, and you might find the rest of the family enjoys themselves more too.

Super-Tired Super Mums (and Dads)

There’s no denying that parenting is demanding and life can be tiring. Whole days can evaporate without a minute to draw breath or grab any ‘me time’.

Wild Daddy and I got together in our mid-30s and planned to have 3 children in 3 years…..WHAT WERE WE THINKING?!!!

I was so comprehensively poleaxed by the fatigue of motherhood that I couldn’t even consider trying for another baby until Caroline was about three. Massive parental sleep deprivation seems to be one of the pitfalls of modern society.

Wild Parents

Parenting outdoor kids can be doubly exhausting. They might not sit in front of screens as much as other kids and what they do get up, they seem to create extra work; muddy, wet, sandy stuff, mountains of wellies, messy artwork, paint-stained carpets, mucky fingerprints, even snail trails in the bath.

More work for us super-frazzled wild parents!

Think Oxygen

This is a great mantra for parenting and life, especially for new Mums! Check out aircraft cabin decompression instructions: –

“Remember to secure your own oxygen mask before assisting others with theirs.”

In basic terms, you are no good to anyone if you pass out!

Kids of the Wild
“Remember to secure your own oxygen mask before assisting others with theirs.”

Apply this to family life and it simply means looking out for Number 1. Properly.

Ensure your own needs are met, with respect for your nearest and dearest and you’ll better meet the needs of your children.

I call it Oxygen Time and happily, lots of it involves time outside in the wild, even if that’s in your garden or a green space on a tea break at work.

Make Time for Oxygen

Oxygen is nature’s elixir of life – without it we die – so Oxygen Time serves as a great metaphor for the moments we allow ourselves to keep our bodies and minds active, healthy and alive.

Whether you can squeeze in a minute or a weekend, there are plenty of things to help you feel rejuvenated and invigorated.

Here are some ideas to help restore energy and balance in family life. You could reap huge rewards in your interactions with your children, and everyone else.

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Enjoying myself (in joy in myself) breathing in a little happy air

There are dozens of ways of taking care of ourselves as women, men, parents. Here are just a few of my favourites.

Walk – in fresh air; up and down the street, in a park or to school/work occasionally instead of driving. Gentle activity and exercise is good for the mind, body and soul. Just 5 minutes can make all the difference.

Smile – Charles Darwin first suggested links between smiling and happiness but don’t take his word for it, just do it

Breathe– don’t hunch, imagine raising your ribcage a tiny fraction and gently breathe, widening your ribs rather than lifting your shoulders to inhale. Find some happy air to breathe in

Move your body – stressed-out wild animals often shake, stamp or leap around to clear stress hormones after fight, flight or freeze reflexes. Do the same! Shake, jump, trampoline, run upstairs. Or put on a CD and dance wildly for 5 minutes, just get active

Gardening – this gets us into the fresh air, directly connecting us with nature and also gets good bacteria into our systems which is another reason that gardening is great for immunity. If you’re not green-fingered sit outside anywhere with your favourite cuppa

Look – find a view and soak it up. Staring into the distance relaxes the eyes, especially after close-up work. Try bird spotting or cloud gazing

Go barefoot – 5 minutes spent barefoot on grass helps relax and ground the body, connecting us with our natural rhythms. Try a barefoot walk at the beach.

Tea and a book – brew a herbal tea and read a chapter. Pukka are currently one of the few companies producing plastic-free teabags. Yes, plastic is everywhere; one of my pet hates. More on that here

Grown-up colouring – I re-discovered the relaxation of colouring when Caroline was old enough to start it and I have not been surprised since, at how quickly the market for grown-up colouring has expanded

Meditate – a calm mind = a happier outlook. A wise man once said “If you can’t make time to meditate for 5 minutes a day then meditate for 15 minutes.” Balance is a great App which is currently free for the first year, or try CDs at home, set up or join a group

Yoga – many yoga poses are based on animals or grounded in nature

Write – journalling is a great way to relax. Choose a topic and write for 10 minutes without stopping, whatever comes into your head

Sleep – set an alarm, find somewhere quiet but don’t worry if you can’t nod off, just enjoy the solitude

Bathe – bring the ocean inside with a relaxing sea salt bath. I use Tidmans, Epsom or magnesium salts

Take a Shower – being a parent of the wild you’ll be outdoors lots and therefore showering lots too! Make this a mindful experience during even the briefest shower. Close your eyes and come up with a mantra e.g. ‘as I cleanse my body, so purify my mind and help me this day my……to find’ inserting whatever word comes to mind and letting it be your thought for the day. Mine is often ‘patience’! Why not try turning the heat down for a 60 second blast of cold water therapy after your shower?!

Mindfulness – the link between all the above is mindfulness – taking a few moments to breathe, think about ourselves and make a brief, 5-minute change to our day

Light a fire – a recent day in the woods with like-minded parents reminded me how good it feels to make fire and cook outdoors. We made a shared pot-luck soup with ingredients brought by each family but there’s no reason not to light a mini fire in the garden just for you. Once you’ve got the skill, it’s a fun family activity that helps kids learn about risk and safety

Go Wild

So what’s stopping you? Close this blog right now, choose something from the list and take some Oxygen Time for YOU. Your family and children can only benefit.
Having personally struggled to claw back me-time without feeling guilty for ‘neglecting’ family life, I can honestly say wild (relaxed) Mums & Dads rock!

For more scientific research on why getting outdoors is good for both our mental health and our children’s development read 11 reasons to get into the wild now.

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Wild wishes for some oxygen time in nature every day to help keep us wild parents energised and calm for when the parenting challenges mount up!

Lucy At Home UK gentle parenting blogger


Get the gear!

Click on the images to find great prices at Amazon for some soul-soothing, me-time goodies.

Pukka plastic-free herbal teabags

The Lost Spells book
(perfect for reading in nature, at the dinner table or before bed)

Happy Self Teens/Adult journal
(Caroline and I have used both of these journals and found them insightful and inspiring)

Happy Self Kids Journal

Epsom salts

Feel Better in 5 book